Life Isn’t About Finding Yourself…

Life is about creating yourself. – George Bernard Shaw

I’ve been on a pretty good streak this week. I think it’s part feeling a bit more normal and maybe a little hypomania but I have it under control and I’ve been using my powers for good lol.

I finally settled into a real cleaning routine this week that takes 10-15 minutes a day to maintain and I do a deep clean once a week – normally on Friday or Saturday that takes a fraction of the 3 hours it used to take me when I used to do it all at once.

I know it sounds like such a small thing, but from where I started, it’s a pretty big deal to me.

It makes me feel good having a clean place but even more so because I know my partner really appreciates it. He never criticizes me for keeping the place messy or waking up late constantly, and I’m so grateful for him being so gentle with me.

I already feel guilty enough as it is on my own without anyone else’s help, and I think he understands that.


About the Quote

It’s been a few days since I read the quote above and it immediately clicked with me. I knew I wanted to expand on it a little more because my mentality has changed over the last couple of years and this is more in line with my current thought processes.

I used to wonder, “What is my purpose?” or “What was I put on Earth to do with my life?” or even, “Who am I as a person?” etc. etc.

But, I’ve grown out of that type of thinking because I started wondering: What was I searching for? A new me? Life direction? Answers? From who?

Over time, I started asking myself, “What am I expecting to discover?”

Now, I believe that my future is in my hands and I can take my life in any direction I want. Instead of searching for these answers, why don’t I just take the reigns and direct my life, myself? Seems so obvious now, doesn’t it?


Sure, there are times where I randomly get the most amazing thoughts and ideas where I want to completely change my life all at once! But I’ve learned to recognize when I’m becoming a little hypomanic and the need to sit on thoughts a little longer until I’ve calmed down a bit.

No big life changes without thinking about it for about a week, at least!

Taking charge of my own “destiny,” so to speak, has made me feel more empowered and my thinking more positive, overall. I’ve stopped searching for “the real me” and instead, I’m creating “the real me,” myself.


I truly believe in visualization. I’ve seen its power when it comes to perfecting my free throw in basketball to successfully hitting my sales numbers at work.

Now, I”m applying this to my life’s goals and ambitions and below is a quick exercise I’ve done personally to help visualize and become my best self.

I hope you take a few minutes to complete it as well.

Simple Steps to Take Today

1) Visualize the best person you can possibly be.

Imagine a close loved one or best friend telling you and everyone else, what an AMAZING person you are. How the person you’ve become is an inspiration. Let your imagination run free when you think of them describing you.

2) Write a few lines that describe this future you.

Begin with the sentence, “I am a person who…” and complete this sentence with all of the wonderful traits and attributes you visualized in the first step. This will be your “future you” note.

3) Now, commit!

Become that person you have described and take one small baby step today to become this amazing person you have visualized. Focus on small, tiny changes and easy wins to get your motivation going.

Small changes today, lead to bigger changes tomorrow. So, don’t rush!

Bonus Step

4) Read your “future you” note every day, first thing in the morning.

Reading and re-reading your short note will reinforce your thoughts and help keep them top of mind throughout your day. Think of one thing you can do that day to get one step closer to becoming this awesome, future you.


Setting the Tone of My Day

This exercise has significantly helped me put my goals in perspective and helps me start my morning off on the right foot. Each morning, I set one tiny goal to accomplish (something like going to the gym or reading a book that will help me develop my skills in some way) and once I’ve completed it, I feel a sense of accomplishment even if it’s the tiniest thing.

These small wins have led me slowly over time to set my sights higher and higher and I’m in a pretty good place right now. (I’m writing this blog, aren’t I?)

I really hope you found this post helpful and that you get a chance to complete this quick exercise and implement it into your daily routine.

Try it out and tell me what you think! Has it maybe shifted your thinking a little? Help set a few goals for you to aspire to?

I would love to hear your thoughts below and if you know of anyone that might benefit from this quick exercise, feel free to send it along to them as well.

Thanks again for reading, I really appreciate you taking the time.

Have a great day!

  • J

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